Facing the 5 Faces of Fear

Facing the5Faces of Fear
By Susie Weller, MA
Director of Tools for Transformation

RECOGNIZING THE 5 FACES OF FEAR
1. Fight 2. Flight 3. Freeze 4. Forget 5. Fix	Get Angry Leave or Avoid the Situation Do Nothing, Is Passive (Under Functions) "Numb" Out Through Alcohol, Drugs, Food, TV, etc. Attempts to Control Others or the Situation (Over Functions

My top 2 patterns of expressing fear are:
1.____________________ 2.____________________


5 WAYS OF FACING FEAR IN A POSITIVE WAY
1. Face 2. Feel 3. Forgive 4. Frame 5. Focus	Face the Reality of the Current Situation, Rather than Denying or Avoiding It Feel Whatever You Are Feeling, So that You Can Heal It, Not Just Relieve It Forgiving Yourself and Others Helps You Accept It, Get Unstuck and Move On Re-Frame Whatever Happened In Another Way That Helps You See the Positive Focus On What I Can Change or Control, Let Go of What I Can't Change

4 COMMON "C" COMMUNICATIONS	4 CREATIVE COMMITMENTS
1. Complain About Others and Situations and Blame Them For How I Am Feeling	1. Claim 100% Response-ability for My Life. (my feelings, choices and actions) Let Go of Acting Like the Victim or Blaming Others for How I Feel.
2. Cover Up Your Feelings or Withhold and Sulk	2. Communicate and Tell the "Unarguable Truth" About What I Am Feeling & What I Would Like.
3. Criticize or Claim How You're the Victim and Others Are At Fault	3. Cultivate an Attitude of "Wonder". . . I Wonder What I Can Learn From This?
4. Contempt Is Expressed Verbally and Non-Verbally	4. Create an Awareness of the Source of this Loss of Respect and When It Most Surfaces and Commit to Resolving It and Regaining Respect for this Person

My most common communication is:

My creative commitment is:

My favorite role in the "triangle game" is: ( victim, blamer or reliever)

My "pay off" (costs & benefits) for being in this role is:

One way I could step out of this role is: